TheOtherCanary speaks out:
What about guys who read? Do they deserve the same devotion?
Date a Guy Who Reads
Date that guy because he’ll care enough to avoid peanut butter while reading because it gums the pages — even if he can’t quite abstain from the Cheetos that leave those orange smears along the edges of the book. But at least he is adding color to your life.
Date a guy who reads because every opened book shows a desire to keep learning, growing, stretching the imagination and the soul. He burns when you discuss those new discoveries and trips.
Date a guy who reads because when you admit — voice low so only he can hear — that you had loved the Lord of the Rings movies but hated the books, he’ll try to persuade you of your error. He’ll list all the positives of Tolkien, with diagrams and charts and waving hands. And that … shows the passion of the man who holds your heart.
Date a guy who reads because, come evening, he appreciates the pleasure of silence, of sitting in the same room reading.
But don’t date the guy because he reads.
The reading bit is just a bonus.
Lot of people got worked up into a fit about the way the original pushed the mentality “Girl + Reading = only dating requirement.” And that’s fine, and understandable, but if the implied alternative is “Your girl reading is just a bonus” it’s just as silly (to some people, of which I’m in the group!)
Let’s face it. The ‘because they read’ part, regardless of gender, is not just a bonus. It’s speaks a lot about the person, their creativity / curiosity / passion, and their mind. A lifelong hobby you aren’t giving up and they are going to understand and share.
I’m not saying to date someone just because they read, in the same way I won’t tell you to date someone just because they respect you as a person, or marry someone just because they also believe in monogamy and want children like you do (if you do - example).
There’s just some basic things that make a lot of sense to have in common, and you don’t need to beat yourself up about admitting that this is true.
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If you smear Cheetohs along the edges of my books, I will kill you.
If you loved those movies but hated the books, I will cry for you.
If you read AND we are compatible in various other ways, have a physical and romantic spark, then maybe we can give it a shot.